I hate dating. I hate dating so much. However, I don’t hate dating because first dates or awkward or because I don’t want to get hurt. I just don’t see the point. The way it
always usually happens: we exchange numbers, text for a while, date, get in a relationship and then break up for whatever reason. I’m left sad and he has whatever emotions he has and then he moves on with his life and so do I. For an added twist, it seems that the breaking up and being sad has come when I need it the least: finals week, work is getting stressful, all times when I really need to be focused.
I read a post today, though, and apparently I’m not the only one. Millennials just aren’t dating. According to Psychology Today, 59 percent of adults 18-29 were married in 1960 and now only 20 percent of adults of the age are married in 2011. The post that I read said other millennials aren’t dating either and these stats help make that claim!
If you’re asking me, I just don’t care. It’s a whole lot of time and work to put into someone for what is likely going to be little reward. I want to care about my career and my own well-being and it’s hard to do that with someone else. I want to be the best me I can be and I think I can do that better on my own.
Dating these days is full of mind games and being coy and I honestly don’t have time for it or the desire to play. I want something lasting and real, not something I have to make a calculated strategy for. Dating should be fun, not akin to a battle strategy. I’m too busy trying to change and better the world, and I think my peers are too.
It’s like that movie, “How to be Single.” I think it’s the time for all of us to be friends and try to change the world together. We can date and marry and settle down when we’re old. For now, here’s to being young, here’s to being present and here’s to being twenty something.
What about you, do you like dating?